Boy, I think my girlfriend is going to kill me, if she ever
finds this article. One thing is for
sure, any political aspirations I may have had are now toast.
Either way, someone has to tell the truth around here so it
might as well be me.
This past Saturday, I attended an all day Leadership
workshop. Part of the workshop was to
draw up a game plan for the week and work it.
Your game plan has to do with coming out of your comfort zone and doing
something extraordinary as it relates to a community project we are working on.
Well one of my fellow participants, Carl, was trying to
break out of his shell and invented the possibility of meeting a woman, having
the courage to talk to her and overcome his fear of rejection.
So a few of the guys there had some history of success in
that department and took upon themselves to coach Carl and produce results that
same night -- one of them had a girlfriend, and the other was married, so they
were also living vicariously through Carl.
I tagged along because a beer sounded like a good idea after
along day of working on my leadership skills and I like watching train wrecks,
but I did add value to Carl by giving him some of my MLM
prospecting pointers. ;)
The Night Begins at Sharkeez
So we went down to Sharkeez in Manhattan
Beach, Ca., grabbed a pitcher of beer and started
coaching Carl and holding him accountable for taking action.
First thing he needed to do was just overcome his fear and
just have a simple conversation. So he
walked over to someone and had a 20 second conversation, then scooted back over
to the table we were at.
First Victory: Open
your mouth.
So now that we knew he was willing to take action, we set
out to create a specific game plan. Now
this is where you need to listen closely, because if you want to have any shot
at using the Magnetic Sponsoring community to grow your business, then this
game plan is for you too.
I’ll be explaining what we told Carl, then translate that to
how it works for using MagneticSponsoring.com to grow your business.
Step 1: Have something interesting or of value to share
Carl wanted advice on what he should talk about when he
starts a conversation with a woman.
Well, since part of the Leadership workshop included a
community project, we simply said, “Talk about your project. Share with her what you are up to and why it
means so much to you. Be genuine.”
Now this was key advice, because it allowed Carl to be
himself, talk about something he cares about, while at the same time being
different from all the other sleaze balls at the bar.
So he walked up to one of the women at the bar and started
sharing. It was incredible, she was totally
into the conversation. I’m willing to
bet $1,000 that no one has ever walked up to her and started sharing with her
about a community project.
He talked to her for a few minutes, then excused himself and
returned to our table.
For the Magnetic
Sponsoring Members
Everyday on this community you have an abundant number of
opportunities to do the same thing Carl did.
There are new members coming in every day. One thing that has produced results for me is
checking out a new members profile, reading their profile, watch any videos or
articles they may have posted, then send them a private message introducing
myself and giving them REAL advice on how
they can use Magnetic Sponsoring to grow their business.
For example, there was someone on this community who was a
fan of Dennis Karganilla and I had just finished having a training call with
Dennis for our Attraction Marketing Formula subscribers. I sent her a message, saying that I enjoyed
her video and that if she was serious about using Social Networking to market
her business, then MS.com was the perfect place to apply the things she was
learning from Dennis.
She responded and asked how she could do that? So I replied and explained how to use MS.com
effectively, based on my experience. A
couple of days later, she opted into my list and became a customer, and she was
happy to do so.
People really appreciate unsolicited advice in this
environment, because 90% of members on this community are asking themselves the
same question, “How do I use MS.com to
grow my business?” Answer that question and you are an ‘Instant Leader’.
Be sure to be specific in your answers and DON’T
talk about your business.
Note: The following
are universal principles and can be applied by women, also.
Step 2: Leave on a High Note and Leave Early
Carl was very proud of himself, but the work was not done
yet. Carl did something that was key to
his success in attracting someone of the opposite sex – he stopped the
conversation at its peak and excused himself.
We told him it was good that he did that.
You don’t want to stick around too long, because no matter
how cool you are, she’ll eventually get tired of talking to you. Leave her hanging and leave on a high
note.
Most other guys will keep talking to her until the
conversation fizzles out and the magic is dead.
Sticking around too long will also give the impression that you are
desperate.
By leaving early, she’ll be more likely to want to talk to
you again. When she gets tired of
getting approached by the other sleaze balls, she’ll think of you again.
For Magnetic
Sponsoring Members
After you’ve provided value to one person, move on with
other activities in your business. Don’t expect a reply and don’t be attached
to an outcome.
In fact, if you really want to be effective, put yourself in
a mindset of giving. What this means is
exactly what Mike talks about in his Magnetic Sponsoring course:
“Give Without
Want, Before You Can Have”
Notice how it doesn’t say, “Give with want and you will
have.”
You must be totally satisfied and happy if you never hear
from that person again. Just be happy
that you were able to help someone and move on.
What is likely to happen is that they will feel they can trust you and
will come back to you whenever they have a question or need help.
Step 3: Plant as Many Seeds as Possible
The final piece of advice we gave to Carl is have the same
type of meaningful, but short conversation with many women.
There are a few reasons for this
1) If
you did leave on a high note, later on when she’s done rejecting all the losers
that tried to pick her up, it will be very easy to pick up where you guys left
off.
2) If
you messed up and didn’t impress a few women, no biggie. The ones who did like you will eventually want
to talk to you again. It’s still a
numbers game.
3) Create
social proof – when they see you talking to other women, it shows that you are
social and in demand
So plant the seeds and you will reap too big of a harvest to
worry about the seeds that didn’t grow.
For Magnetic
Sponsoring Members
Network and have fun.
Socialize and add value to the people you interact with. As you talk to more and more people and
people start commenting on your articles, and replying to your forum posts,
your name will become known. This visible interaction will provide the social
proof to make your communications that much more powerful.
And if you are really producing some good content, you’ll be
more likely to get featured on the home page and maybe even get Mike Dillard to
send your article or video out to his list.
That’s the ultimate in social proof, but you have to start
with value and quality before anything like that happens.
Rule of Thumb
Now, one of the rules of thumb which will allow you to
create your own unique game plan is “Do the opposite of what everyone else is
doing”.
Sometimes people misinterpret this as “don’t take
action”.
No! What this means is do the opposite, within the context
of a specific action.
For example, if most people on MS.com are promoting their
business, don’t promote your business.
Promote your brand and solution.
If most people are posting 3-5 crappy articles on MS.com per
day, post 1 super high quality, content rich article per week.
If most people are posting content on Article Marketing,
post content and start forum threads on SEO.
And if most people are avoiding racy issues like the
analogous nature between dating and network marketing, write an article about
how picking up women at bars is like growing your networking marketing
business. ;)
… you get the idea.
Oh, btw, Carl ended up striking up 8 conversations that
night. What was funny is that we were
going to leave it at that, but one of the women he talked to came over to our
table towards the end of the night and demanded to sit next to Carl, and kicked
out the married guy from his seat.
I guess the plan worked too well. Something was weird about her and we managed
to have the bartender distract her, while we slipped out the back door. We celebrated Carl’s victory over fear and
rejection with late night pancakes at a local diner.
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Ferny Ceballos sincerely hopes that no one is offended by the material above and that his girlfriend forgives him if she ever finds this article. To learn more about Ferny and to keep up to date on whether he got burned by this article, go to http://www.attractionmarketingformula.com.
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